Dating vs courting christian

12-Aug-2017 13:03

I don't necessarily regret dating these men; however, I definitely made mistakes in both relationships and feel convicted about not making those same mistakes again.I recently finished Candice Watters' book , which was a definite eye opener and showed me some areas in my life in which I want to prayerfully improve and grow.However, among Christians, you still hear “courtship” and “dating” used interchangeably; indicating that many single people find the terms to mean the same thing.Why would anyone use the term “courtship” when they are simply “dating”? Some Christians find the word “dating” to be a negative term due to their secular counterparts using the term excessively.She doesn't really talk a great deal about courtship, but it's something I've been thinking about a lot since reading her book and am not sure if this is the right choice for me.

(Eph -32) Based on this understanding, when being courted, a girl will not see herself as being in a “new category” of relationship.

The man and woman attempt to not stir up each other's love prematurely and thus do not act like a couple or as if they belong to each other.

The man treats the woman as a sister in all purity.

However, it does not mean it’s kind, loving or Christ-like for a man to pursue a woman and then pursue someone else at the same time (especially if he had communicated serious interest in her).

When courting a woman, a guy will usually choose to not pursue anyone else.

(Eph -32) Based on this understanding, when being courted, a girl will not see herself as being in a “new category” of relationship.

The man and woman attempt to not stir up each other's love prematurely and thus do not act like a couple or as if they belong to each other.

The man treats the woman as a sister in all purity.

However, it does not mean it’s kind, loving or Christ-like for a man to pursue a woman and then pursue someone else at the same time (especially if he had communicated serious interest in her).

When courting a woman, a guy will usually choose to not pursue anyone else.

I don't want to date more than one guy at a time, but I might not want to marry that one guy, either. These terms are often used interchangeably, depending on which one the person feels most comfortable using. You never hear a non-Christian use this term at any time.