Questions to ask yourself before dating a girl

02-Mar-2017 05:52

But I really wanted to be on my own and meet different kinds of people for awhile.

I unnecessarily confused a few serious guys who wanted exclusive relationships, One fellow wrote me that after he lost his wife, he wanted a friend with benefits only. Another gentleman said he wants a girlfriend, but still wants to live separately. It helps to have a goal before shopping in the human mall of online dating.

When I was dating I remember constantly being smothered with that giant question like a bloated bear was sitting on my head, refusing to move. To magically stumble upon like finding the gold at the end of a rainbow that is being carried by a unicorn with leprechaun jockey.

But how are you supposed to know which one is the right one?

Note: Please don’t forget to join the conversation in the comment section, would love to hear from my married and folk who are in a relationship.

BUT, before I get to my points I just wanted to share 3 Quick Things I learned about dating last year. I have done it time and time again when I would talk every day to a person then fall off the face of the earth. Pace yourself and give each other an opportunity to deserve the everyday call.

Being a nice girl, I sought a stable guy to settle down with.

I waited 14 months before joining an online dating site, but it was still too soon, at least for me. Yup, time to hit Target and pick up a new spouse now that the old one’s worn out! I hear from so many widowed folk who get plenty of love and companionship from friends and family. Yet the societal benchmark for recovery seems to be seeing someone new.

I could have saved myself a lot of pain by waiting longer. I drank that koolaid as a new widow, but finally realized if I don’t want to date, it didn’t make me any less “recovered.” It also didn’t make me any more or less attractive.

If you can just get your hair, abs, complexion, and clothes just right, then The One will scamper to you like a squirrel to a nut factory. Sure appearance might catch someone’s eye, but it’s personality, values, faith, heart, past, present, and future that’s going to make them stay.

Your petals might be beautiful, but if you don’t have any nectar then the bees are just going to fly away. It can prop up an intimacy that has no foundation to sustain it.

Being a nice girl, I sought a stable guy to settle down with.

I waited 14 months before joining an online dating site, but it was still too soon, at least for me. Yup, time to hit Target and pick up a new spouse now that the old one’s worn out! I hear from so many widowed folk who get plenty of love and companionship from friends and family. Yet the societal benchmark for recovery seems to be seeing someone new.

I could have saved myself a lot of pain by waiting longer. I drank that koolaid as a new widow, but finally realized if I don’t want to date, it didn’t make me any less “recovered.” It also didn’t make me any more or less attractive.

If you can just get your hair, abs, complexion, and clothes just right, then The One will scamper to you like a squirrel to a nut factory. Sure appearance might catch someone’s eye, but it’s personality, values, faith, heart, past, present, and future that’s going to make them stay.

Your petals might be beautiful, but if you don’t have any nectar then the bees are just going to fly away. It can prop up an intimacy that has no foundation to sustain it.

In my head, I was feeling someone out to see if we meshed. My Story: I wrote a blog post about a month ago about being single.