Dating how to say no

25-Aug-2016 03:13

If it feels so good, and is good for the relationship, and both people are consenting, then what is the problem?Consider this viewpoint: When someone can say no to sex outside of marriage, their behavior is a sign that he or she is capable of delaying gratification and exhibiting self-control, which are two prerequisites of the ability to love.Men who will not harm you needn't persuade you to trust them; they simply act appropriately from the moment you meet them and for as long as you know them.They do not exude forced harmlessness like the drama teacher everyone assumes is gay, or the understanding neighbor who says, ''If you ever need to just get away from your parents for a while, consider my place open to you.'' Other than by the passage of time, it isn't possible for a man to prove he isn't dangerous, nor is it his responsibility to do so.

One of the most uncomfortable things about dating is having to let a potential suitor down easy, particularly because there's absolutely nothing easy about it.

Express that you're flattered, but not interested.

And while we're talking about honesty, never say yes just because you feel guilty.

If someone cannot delay gratification and control himself or herself in this area, what makes you think that they can delay their own gratification in other areas of sacrifice?

What is going to curb the “I want what I want now” mentality in the rest of life?

One of the most uncomfortable things about dating is having to let a potential suitor down easy, particularly because there's absolutely nothing easy about it.Express that you're flattered, but not interested.And while we're talking about honesty, never say yes just because you feel guilty.If someone cannot delay gratification and control himself or herself in this area, what makes you think that they can delay their own gratification in other areas of sacrifice?What is going to curb the “I want what I want now” mentality in the rest of life?If you don't want to be responsible for someone diving head-first into a Ben & Jerry's container—and let's be real, who does!